Often we hear about following your calling, living your dream, finding your purpose but that can be easier said than done. It took until I was 47 years old to feel like I’m living my purpose, like I was headed in the direction that is right for me.

How do you get there? How do you figure out your purpose? 

Step 1: Prioritize

This isn’t about creating a prioritized list (though that is a favorite tip of mine); it is about prioritizing yourself. What do you need? What do you want? Prioritizing yourself can feel odd, uncomfortable, and be tricky to navigate. We typically put other people’s needs above our own. If there’s time, we might do something for ourselves. This rarely happens though because there is always something else to do.  

Just like the airplane safety instructions, put the oxygen mask on yourself first, then help others. When we live our purpose, our overall life satisfaction, happiness, joy all go up which makes us a better person, wife, partner, friend, etc.

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Step 2: Letting Go of Perfectionism

Once you start living your purpose, then you start taking actions to put things in place. It gives you direction and focus. But another “p” can appear very quickly to keep us from really moving towards our new goal.


Because you are doing something new, something that challenges you and you are stepping outside of your comfort zone, procrastination can get in the way. It may not look like procrastination. It can  be sneaky sometimes. Read tips on overcoming procrastination here.

Perfectionism is a form of procrastination. We keep prepping, researching, planning and we never move forward.

If your purpose is to share your product or services with the world, procrastination disguising perfectionism can be: spending weeks developing your website, researching social media outlets and how to use them, marketing courses, free challenges, webinars…

At some point, you just have to start.

Step 3: Utilizing Your Inner Power

Whether your business is selling t-shirts or giving psychic readings, you are sharing yourself with the world in some capacity. Again, this can be tricky and feel uncomfortable at first.

Imposter syndrome creeps in and we think we don’t offer value and no one will want what we have to share. Think about your accomplishments, your expertise and your experience. Your uniqueness is what people want and pulling from your own inner power will make that happen for you and them.

Recognize your strengths. Use affirmations, keep a journal, and talk to a trust friend. If you’ve got an urge to share your gift, idea, product, or service, then you’ve got the power inside to make your dream a reality!

Do you feel like you are living your purpose right now? What steps do you need to take to start? Remember, you can be living your purpose even if you only have 10 minutes a day to work towards it. The more you do it consistently, the more likely it will turn into what you want.

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